My Story

I graduated from UC Berkeley and did what I was supposed to do.

I went into tech. I worked for big companies and scrappy startups. I built things. I made good money. On paper, I was winning.

But I always knew — somewhere underneath all of it — that what I actually wanted was to help people. And I couldn't hear that voice clearly, because my insecurities consumed me.

I was depressed. I had undiagnosed ADHD. I was caught in limerence — obsessive, painful, one-sided fixation that hijacked my mind and wouldn't let go. I was gambling. I had narcissistic traits I didn't want to look at, and I had come out of a high-control religious group that had shaped me and then left me to rebuild my entire understanding of meaning, God, and myself.

In 2024, I stopped pretending.

I left big tech to pursue psychology full-time. Not because I had it all figured out — but because I finally understood that the thing I most needed to do with my life was the same thing I most needed to do for myself: heal, and then help others heal.

So I did the work. The real work. I went to therapy. I faced the depression, the addiction, the limerence, the narcissistic defenses, the religious wounds. I learned how my ADHD brain actually works instead of hating it. I got sober. I rebuilt my relationship with meaning. I stopped chasing the next hit of validation and started building a self that didn't need it.

Today my life looks different.

I'm in a committed relationship. I live a humble, sober life. I'm at peace in a way I genuinely didn't believe was available to me a few years ago.

And now I do the thing I always knew I was supposed to do.

I started a coaching service to help people using the exact tools I used to climb out.

I know what it's like to feel like the broken one. I know what it's like to keep choosing the short-term hit over the life you say you want. I know what it's like to be obsessed with someone who doesn’t care about you.

I know what it's like to lose faith and community and wonder who you are without them.

And I know what it's like to come out the other side.

You are not too far gone. You are not uniquely broken. You are not beyond help.

You're just stuck — and being stuck is something you can get unstuck from.

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